How to build up your resilience

By January 30, 2019September 5th, 2019Homepage, In the Media, New Zealand, Wellness

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Written by Louise Chan on Jan 09 2019

In 2019, BGL, Australia’s leading supplier of SMSF administration and ASIC corporate compliance software solutions, will focus on innovation, culture and wellness. We hope the article below helps you spread gratitude and positivity in all aspects of your business and community.


Some people have the ability to face adversity head on and keep moving forward despite experiencing setbacks. It may seem as if people who display such resilience are simply emotionally and psychologically stronger than others, however, this isn’t necessarily the case.

Resilience is a learned trait. Building resilience is a challenging journey and individuals must exert great effort to choose actions that strengthen their resilience with every new challenge they face.

For instance, it’s easy to tell someone to simply get over a long-term relationship that ended than to actually do it. The affected person must develop the capacity to manage the situation and react more positively instead of indifference or any self-destructive means.

Below are Wellness Daily’s five tips on how to build resilience:

  • Focus on self-care and control
  • Practice mindfulness
  • Master the art of letting go
  • Leave communication lines open
  • Learn from mistakes

Focus on self-care and control

Practicing self-care is very important in building personal resilience. After all, the better a person’s ability is to take care of and focus on themselves and their needs, the more motivated they would be to reach their goals in spite of setbacks.

Exercising self-control is also important in the midst of facing a challenge—especially when it’s easy to lose themselves in negative emotions. Individuals need to be able to draw a line between what is deemed to be a “normal” amount of stress and an unhealthy amount of negativity so that stress levels don’t spiral out of control.

These two are critical in times of crises so they should be constantly developed even during “peaceful” times.

Practice mindfulness

Mindfulness is the psychological process that urges an individual to be in the present and take in experiences fully and as they happen.

Practicing mindfulness can help individuals take a step back and focus on addressing whatever is happening and how these issues can be solved in the present.

It’s a lot like how mountaineers focus on putting one foot in front of the other instead of constantly thinking about how much more of the mountain they have to scale. Instead of constantly worrying about the future, practicing mindfulness allows them to look at issues in different perspectives so that they can knock down problems one at a time.

Master the art of letting go

Rumination—the act of obsessively thinking about a person’s cause of distress—can be detrimental to one’s mental health and is also a great barrier to building personal resilience.

People often think about a past event in order to scrutinise it and determine what could have been done differently—or to simply desensitise themselves. In some cases, however, ruminating keeps these events fresh in their minds. The more a person ruminates about a past issue, the less likely they are able to move on.

The best way to avoid prolonged stress brought about by rumination is to accept that something happened, let go and face the consequences. ‘Letting go’ doesn’t mean forgetting whatever happened, but it should pave the way for people to face the aftermath of issues, shake the dust off and start focusing on how they can achieve their goal in spite of what happened.

Leave communication lines open

Leaving communication lines open to family and friends is also important because this allows individuals to receive support that they may need from time to time.

It’s true that most strategies in developing resilience focus on the self but, as the old saying goes, “no man is an island”. Resilience doesn’t mean becoming self-centred or egocentric nor does it require individuals to do things by themselves.

Resilience requires a person to centre themselves so that they understand themselves better, learn their limits and know when to accept or reach out for help. Becoming resilient doesn’t necessarily mean doing everything alone.

Learn from mistakes

People make mistakes and no individual is exempt from this—it simply isn’t realistic to avoid making a mistake at all times. When facing an uncomfortable circumstance or a tough challenge, each mistake can be treated as an opportunity to learn. This way, a person knows what to avoid the next time around.

What’s more important in building up resiliency is the person’s ability to face the challenges they encounter—and learning from previous mistakes gives them the assurance that they can face similar challenges in the future but still achieve better results because they know better.


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